From the first queasy hints of pregnancy to the wrenching parental rite of college graduation, raising a bourgeois kid has become a total thing. There’s so much information available, so many parenting tools, so much insight and advice from kid science and brain science, from BabyCenter and Moms.com. Of course, when it’s your kid, the ability to do things that might be conducive to their future success translates into the felt obligation to do these things. In other words, the presence of all this advice, the swelling of our parental agency thanks to all this helpful knowledge, makes us parents guiltier and more anxious. To learn of possible pathways to success for your children is also to imagine new routes—should you be lazy or remiss in applying this knowledge—to failure. The crude parental logic of this is: do more. Do as much as you can, because among the many things you’re now empowered by knowing is that there are a lot of parents out there who are doing as much as they can.